Don’t approach each other too quickly.
I know you’re so psyched to kiss your new husband, but you definitely want to delay your gratification for one extra second. I just enlisted Paul’s help in an experiment on what would happen if you move in for a kiss too quickly. Conclusion: You may bump teeth, produce a bizarre sound when you make contact, and miss each other’s mouths. Experiment two: We went in for a kiss more slowly (Paul has it so tough being a blogger’s husband, right?), and, while we did laugh at each other because it’s strange to premeditate your kiss-approach speed, it all went a lot more smoothly.
While leaving a little space between the two of you for the first dance may be appropriate (not that Paul and I did that), for your kiss, you need to be very near each other. You shouldn’t stretch your lips to their earthly limits a la Duck Lips from “Full House” (remember him? He’s 32 now!).
Close your eyes!
Even if you like to take a quick peek when you kiss in private, you’ll be in front of an audience this time. If you’ve ever watched people kissing with their eyes open, you know how uncomfortable it is. Please don’t subject your guests to that.
Do something with your hands.
I always think that couples who kiss with their arms dangling at their sides look like high school drama students portraying Romeo and Juliet, forced to smooch on stage. That’s because when your hands are motionless, you don’t look like you’re truly enjoying the kiss. No, I’m not suggesting you grope each other, but embracing or holding hands is a good idea. Apparently, I put my hands on Paul’s face (I kind of look like I’m choking him, don’t I? I swear, I wasn’t!), and he went for my waist.
Go with the flow.
I think the ceremony kiss is a case when practice doesn’t make perfect. It’s nerve-racking enough to kiss in front of dozens of people whose eyes are glued on you; I wouldn’t recommend adding more anxiety to that by having a rehearsed kiss. The only thing you should decide on beforehand is which direction you’ll tilt your heads. Paul and I can’t remember if we had this discussion, but our natural inclination is always to lean right, so we didn’t wind up nudging noses.
Be passionate yet polite.
A quick peck doesn’t suit the occasion (hello, you just got married!). A 20-second workout for your tongues isn’t called for, either. Show each other how happy you are to be newly wedded while keeping your many witnesses (possibly including young children) in mind. Whether or not you’re marrying in a house of worship, I think this line from The Wedding Singer is a good guideline: “Not porno tongue. Church tongue.”